EXTRACT FOR
Sex in Paradise 2
(Darren G. Burton)

Lose Your Inhibitions





"If you want to live a free and easy sex life, then you'll just have to loosen up a little," Shandi said to Taylor over a cup of coffee. "Look at Mike and I. We're attractive, I think, but we're not super models. And we have no inhibitions about getting naked in front of each other or anyone else."

Taylor sipped his cappuccino and licked a mustache of froth off his upper lip. He'd known Shandi and her husband for quite some time now and knew they were into the swinging scene; apparently often swapping partners at the parties they attended.

"I'm shy even just approaching women, let alone being confident in the bedroom," he admitted, feeling forlorn.

"You have sex, though. Right?"

He nodded. "Sometimes. But even when I get a girl into bed I'm self-conscious about getting undressed, and also about saying what I like and that sort of thing."

"But why?" Shandi threw up her hands in disbelief. "You are quite a good looking guy, and you're not overweight or anything." She thought for a moment, then said quietly, "Is it small?"

"What? No, not at all. It's a normal enough size, I think."

"Then what's the problem?"

"I don't know. A lack of confidence."

Shandi leaned across the little table and tapped him on the skull. "It's all psychological. It's all in your head. You just need to step outside your comfort zone, get more sexual exposure and build up your confidence and self-esteem."

"But how?"

"I just told you how. By stepping out, experiencing more. Believe in yourself."

Taylor went home after the coffee feeling even more despondent than he had before he'd spoken to his friend. He knew she was right. There was no reason for him to be so self-conscious and always doubting himself in that area. Girls actually did have quite a good time with him when he made some moves.

That evening he was still pondering ways to step out when his cell phone rang. It was Shandi.

"I've just been speaking to Mike," she said, "and I think we've come up with a few ways that will really help you."