Ever start to think that
maybe you married the wrong guy?
Don't get me wrong, Michael
is a great guy. He's loving, tender, sweet, thoughtful, and intelligent and
respectful. He's exactly the guy I thought I wanted when I was nineteen.
The problem is I was a different
person then.
Oh, not entirely. I'm still
a feminist, an environmentalist, a lover of exercise, skiing, swimming,
boating, gardening, leather furniture, modern art. I mean, all that stuff, it
hasn't changed. What has slowly changed, over time, is my attitude about men. I
used to be the ardent, stereotypical young feminist. You know, outraged if I
was treated as a sex object, determined to be respected, to be treated as an
equal, rejecting any special treatment as a woman, disdaining the old school approach
where the man was the head of the family.
Michael and I were
partners, sharing all decisions equally. In theory. In reality, Michael was
kind of, well, a wimp. Maybe I'd just browbeat him too much over the years. I
don't know. But he not only lets me do anything I want he asks me what he
should do! I don't know. It's hard to explain. I don't think of him as a wimp,
exactly, but, well, he's sure a pushover in any kind of discussion. It's always
me that has to decide, me who has to act.
I didn't mind that when I
was twenty. In fact, I kind of liked it. I don't know. He's got a nicely toned
body from working at the gym regularly, but he's not a tough guy by any means.
He's not even, well he's not very manly.
He's fastidious about cleanliness and neatness to the point I just roll
my eyes. I sometimes ask myself who's the man in this relationship anyway?
But the sex is really the
core of what was driving my unhappiness. Again, it's entirely my own fault. The
kind of gentle, sharing sex that Michael and I had was what I had wanted when
younger. But now it bored me. Maybe it bored Michael too, because while my
interest in sex has grown his has, uhm, well, shrunk. But my efforts at trying
new things, bold things, even kinky things were met with complete, sometimes
prudish disapproval.
He had no real interest in
sex beyond the straightforward missionary position, and not a lot in that. I
was starting to wonder if he was gay or something. I certainly wasn't thinking
of him as very, well, 'manly'. Sex with
him was soft, gentle, and loving, but after years of it I was looking for
something rougher, wilder, nastier, something with passion and sweat and maybe
a touch of darkness even.
I saw this picture, an art
print, a drawing, but very nicely done. It was of a beautiful woman on her
knees, naked. Her chest was on the floor, her full breasts pillowed out beneath
her. Her bottom was raised high, knees wide apart, and then pulled forward
awkwardly so that from knee to hip they were almost vertical – except angled to
the sides, if you know what I mean.
It was a look of a woman
ready to be taken! Ready to be mounted and used hard by a real man, a bull of a
man! I saw it and I immediately put myself in that picture, imagined myself
kneeling like that, my ass in the air, ready for a man to move behind me and
sink himself deep into my body. But that man wouldn't pump in and out slowly
and tenderly. No, he would thrust into me hard and fast, ride me, maybe grab my
hair and yank it back, slap my ass, curse and snarl and ram himself into me!
He would ride me like a
fucking animal! And I would come like one, screaming, writhing, my insides on
fire.
It was literally impossible
to imagine Michael doing that. Michael didn't curse. Michael didn't get sweaty,
except when working out. And then he had a shower immediately after, and did
his hair. Michael's suits were perfectly tailored on his tall, slender body,
not a button out of place, not a seam that wasn't sharply cut. Michael had a
soft, genial voice. Michael had never hit me or any other woman, not even in
play. The idea of Michael snarling and spanking me while riding me was absurd.
And why would I even want
something like that? Didn't it go against everything I believed about equality?
Well, kind of, yeah.
And I still believed in
equality. I just believed that, maybe, the guy should be just a little more
equal in certain ways. My eyes started to rove, and my mind followed, eying men
in the streets, in stores, at work, my thoughts drifting along dangerous roads.
I wasn't a submissive woman by nature, so why was I having fantasies about men
dominating me in bed, using me, riding me like a whore, like a bitch in heat?
I'd been with Michael for
six years. Was there a female version of the seven year itch? Was that all it
was, an itch that needed scratching? I mean, I didn't like being told what to
do by anyone. God knows I'd made that clear to Michael. Was that one of the
reasons he'd gone all wimpy on me, or had he been wimpy right from the start?
So what did I want? I
didn't want some big bellied bad boy in a wife-beater shirt, that was for sure.
But I did want a man with some bulk with wide shoulders and an attitude that
said 'I'm the boss' but who wouldn't take that to extremes. I wanted to be a
partner, but maybe, maybe not the partner in charge. Maybe I wanted to be a
junior partner...
I felt guilty about those
kinds of thoughts. It wasn't fair to Michael. He was behaving exactly the way
I'd always wanted him to – before.
But I had changed, and he
wasn't changing with me. And I was finding him boring, and too boyish for a man
who was nearly thirty. I didn't want a tennis player. I wanted a football
player No, a rugby player, hmm, with an Australian accent. Hot, sweaty, with
hair on his chest (Michael shaved his) and a growl in his voice on occasion.
That picture kind of
obsessed me. I got down on all fours naked in front of the bedroom closet door.
It was mirrored, as was the one next to it. Naked, I looked pretty good. Like
Michael, I worked out regularly. I was slender by nature, though I have decent
breasts. And keeping my stomach firm and flat had been something I'd worked at
hard for years. I too was bereft of hair, not so much because I wanted it that
way but because Michael insisted.
Insisted? Well not really.
More like he pouted. I think he had this image of me which came from statues,
from art, and wanted me to look like that.
I knelt there on all fours,
my right side to the mirror, rolling my eyes to the side, turning my head a
little, examining myself, imagining myself with a man behind me, using me,
gripping my hair, slapping my butt, my body rocking to his hard thrusts, to the
slapping of his hips against my buttocks.
Oh yeah!
I could feel the heat
rising within me, could see and feel my nipples stiffening and tingling as a
flush crept over my face.
I dropped to my elbows,
raising my bottom, feeling my heart beating faster as I examined myself. And
then, grunting with effort, I lowered my chest to the floor, letting my breasts
pillow out beneath me. I shifted my knees forward but apart, straining the
tendons and muscles in my groin, wanting myself in that 'submissive' pose which
had captured my imagination.
I could feel how open I was
back there, could imagine the sight of me a man would get as he looked down.
The thought of Michael seeing me like this was actually embarrassing. He'd frown in confusion and disapproval. He
didn't like sex from behind at all. It wasn't romantic enough. He wanted us
face to face so his lips and mine could be together, he said. He hadn't married
my ass, he'd married me.
Oh, he would've done it if
I'd insisted, but it would have been reluctantly, without enthusiasm, and he
would have thought less of me for it.
Slap my ass? Michael!? He
was an organizer of the white ribbon campaign locally, the male sponsored
campaign against violence against women. No way was he going to slap any part
of me.
I felt like a slut like
this, but that wasn't shameful. I felt wanton, hot, erotic. I could feel how
wet I was, how hot.
I got up with a grunt, and
got the video camera, then placed it in position behind me and just a bit to
the side. I turned it on then got back into position. I shifted a little,
rolled my hips back and forth, then checked camera again, feeling my heart
thumping.
Well from there I proceeded
to the living room, set up the camera again, this time broadcasting through Wi-Fi
to the TV, and stared at myself, entranced. God, I looked hot and sexy! I got my dildo and then used it, masturbating
while staring at myself, turning into different positions, as lewd, as obscene
as possible, acting the total slut, the total skanky tramp for the camera,
fingering myself, rubbing my clit, and using that dildo hard and fast.
I drove myself to orgasm,
as unrestrained, given I was alone in the house, as I'd let myself be for
years.
And then, when I watched
myself again on the camera, I masturbated, just looking at it, coming again in
less than a minute.
I toyed with the thought of
somehow letting Michael find the video, but no, he'd be, well, grossed out,
probably. Yes, he was that fastidious, that opposed to raw, nasty sex, or
anything else that wasn't dignified. He wasn't a very emotional man, I
realized. He smiled a lot, and seemed relatively content, but he wasn't a man
given to excitement, or to seeking it.
I wanted excitement.
I wanted thrills.
And I wasn't getting them.
For months I daydreamed,
and sometimes masturbated with thoughts of being dominated, being used roughly
rode hard and put away wet, as they say. I looked at porn on the internet, some
of it kind of gross, and find one other image which caught my mind, my
imagination.
It was another naked woman.
This was a drawing, too, more of a cartoon, but very well done. A naked blonde
was standing with her arms raised high, tied together at the wrists. A man was
taking her cruelly, brutally from behind, jerking her hips back as he thrust up
between her thighs. She was on her toes, her head drawn back, mouth open as she
screamed. I thought that was incredibly hot!
Fast forward.
I work at Robertson Davies,
an upscale architectural and engineering firm in a mid-town office tower. We're
fashionable but also modern and relaxed. People come to work dressed pretty
much however they like, within reason. That doesn't include sweatpants or jeans
or shorts for men, nor cleavage, miniskirts or midriff tops for women, but just
about anything else was fine.
Managers tended to wear
suits, though. And certainly, directors did.
Dennis Ford was the new
director. We'd got notice, knew the name, but there'd been no description.
My first sight of him, the
only description I could have given was 'wow'.
He was a big man all the
way around. He was tall, with broad shoulders and a football player’s build. He
wore his suit well, but seemed somewhat out of place. I can't say exactly why.
He seemed less – tame – than the rest of us, somehow. He looked like he ought
to be swinging a hammer or a wrench or something, not holding management
meetings.
His face was chiseled and
good looking, but not someone you would instantly describe as handsome. He had
short dark hair and long lashes over his brown eyes. And he acted very
gentlemanly, quite going against the grain of his appearance, at least at
first.
I overheard him, a week
later, on the phone, and he was angry. He was snarling, and didn't seem to worry
about his language either. It was kind of eye opening. People around here
didn't display anger, didn't raise their voice, and certainly didn't curse on
the phone during a business call.
“I don't give a fuck what
those assholes think,” he was growling. “Tell them to get off their asses and
do what they're told or I'll find someone who will!”
Why did hearing that voice
make my nipples tingle?
The anonymous man in my
fantasies now began to take shape. And his face was Dennis Ford's face.
Of course, there wasn't a
lot of opportunity for me to get close to him. He was a director. I was just a
purchasing agent. I took instructions from my team leader, Cindy, who took hers
from our manager Larry. I might encounter Dennis in the hall, or by walking past
his office, but that was about it, at first.
It started to feel a little
strange when I did encounter him, though. I mean, my favorite fantasy was him
taking me from behind while I was on my knees, like in that original print, of
him using me roughly, yanking on my hair, slapping my ass. I'd masturbate in
bed with the dildo, my hand thrust back between my thighs, pumping it in and
out as I imagined Dennis taking me like that, hard.